Sleaford dad helps to raise £7,000 for hospice which cared for his late father

Sleaford man Jamie Aspland pictured with his late father Nigel, and son Jai.
Sleaford man Jamie Aspland pictured with his late father Nigel, and son Jai.

“If I could have one more day with Dad, I’d want to hold him once more and tell him just how much I love him.”

These are the moving words of a Sleaford man who, along with work colleagues, have raised thousands for the hospice which cared for his late father through terminal cancer.

The Pygott and Crone team near Lincoln Castle.

The Pygott and Crone team near Lincoln Castle.

Jamie Aspland, branch manager at the town’s Pygott and Crone, took part in the Lincoln 10k recently with colleagues to raise £7,000 for St Barnabas Hospice.

His dad Nigel died age 63 in November 2016, after being diagnosed just six months earlier with terminal cancer. Nigel spent many weeks being cared for by St Barnabas’ Hospice at Home team before choosing to spend his last 29 days at the charity’s hospice in Grantham Hospital.

Jamie said he was lucky to work for such a supportive company who allowed him the time to look after his dad when he was reaching the end of his life.

“Before we were referred to St Barnabas, we had a family rota to make sure someone was looking after Dad at all times,” Jamie explained. “This didn’t go to plan when Dad tried to go to the toilet on his own one night as he didn’t want to wake me after a busy day at work. Unfortunately he fell and it was a wake-up call that we just couldn’t cope on our own without extra support. From then on, St Barnabas took over Dad’s care and it felt like a weight had lifted. I had promised myself I would look after Dad until the end but the St Barnabas nurses were able to show me that it would be better for Dad if we all worked together. They were 100% right.”

Jamie gives the thumbs-up during the Lincoln 10k race.

Jamie gives the thumbs-up during the Lincoln 10k race.

“I can hand-on-heart say that without St Barnabas I’m not sure how I would have got through the last months of Dad’s life. The room which Dad was in was amazing, the support and care given to him was second to none and nothing was ever too much. The nurses supported me when I needed supporting and left me when I needed time alone. They just seemed to know what to do at all the right times. When end-of-life came, they knew all the right things to do to keep us calm and help us think about the next steps.

“One memory that sticks in my mind is about another family who were going through the same thing as us. The lady who was terminally ill wanted to be alive for Christmas but her family and St Barnabas nurses were aware that this would not be possible. The nurses arranged for her to have her own Christmas Day on November 25. They came in wearing Christmas jumpers, brought presents and enjoyed all the fun and laughter of a normal Christmas with the family. What an amazing memory to leave that family with.”

Jamie has pledged to raise enough money for St Barnabas to cover every penny’s worth of care and support given to his family.

He added: “If I could have one more day with Dad, I’d want thank him for the legacy he has set up for our family and let him see his grandson, Jai, playing football. I’d want to hold him once more and tell him just how much I love him. There are always times when I miss his presence more as it’s hard knowing I can’t run decisions past him anymore and get his advice.”

The Pygott and Crone team at the Lincoln 10k race in aid fo St Barnabas Hospice.

The Pygott and Crone team at the Lincoln 10k race in aid fo St Barnabas Hospice.

St Barnabas Hospice provides free care to people across Lincolnshire living with a life-limiting or terminal illness and their families and carers. For more details visit www.stbarnabashospice.co.uk